You Are The Most Important Person In Your Life
You Are The Most Important Person In Your Life
As a woman, and particularly a mama, you have been conditioned to put everyone and everything else in front of you and your needs. Well, I am here to plant a seed of rectification regarding that notion…You are the most important person in your life.
This notion is so important that when you are able to embrace it fully, your whole world will change.
Your family and friends can not drink from an empty cup. You cannot give what you do not have, and if you truly want to give to them, you need to make yourself the most important person in your life and allow the life-force-energy to nourish your body, mind and soul until your cup is so full that it is over flowing and then your loved ones may drink from the abundance of the overflow.
It is no secret that the whole family struggle when the mama-ship goes down.
It is plain and simple – you cannot make everyone and everything else more important that yourself.
So often you use the words “I will do that when…” and fill in the blank with some variation of a when that is never likely to happen, unless you make yourself important enough to take action and make it happen.
Shift your priorities onto fulfilling and satisfying your body, mind and soul and you will be amazed at how much easier supporting your loved ones becomes. This shift does not need to be dramatic and life changing to start with. You can shift little-by-little at first so that you can become familiar with how to do it and how it will unfold.
Here are some areas to consider when beginning to priorities yourself;
- Identifying what you want and what you don’t want – this sounds simple, but to truly discover what you do want, you may need to invert and revers what you don’t want. You may be surprised at how much your focus has been on what you don’t want and how often that actually shows up in your day-to-day life.
- What are your needs and how can you meet them in fulfilling and satisfying ways? – You may be surprised at how you have been unconscious to what you actually need and how you have been attempting to fulfill these needs in unfulfilling ways.
- Where have you been making others more important than you?
- What could you do to ensure you priorities your needs and are able to support the needs of your loved ones, without sacrificing yourself as a priority?
Over time, every mama develops a way of prioritising what needs to happen in each moment. More often than not women tend to put themselves lower on the list of priorities. Constantly making everyone and everything else important becomes exhausting and overwhelming, as you are trying to give from an empty cup. The truth is that the more you are able to meet your own needs and priorities those needs, the easier being a mama becomes. You will have more energy to share, more joy to give and you will no longer feel that bubbling resentment and rage about being a slave to the chore of running a home and family.
So how do you re-priorities yourself and your needs and important?
Here are a few helpful hints on how you can make yourself important in your day-to-day life;
Make time for you
Whether it be 5 minutes or 5 hours – you must find time in your day that is not negotiable and is all about you. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and yes, these 24 hours become busy, hectic and fly by so quickly. It is your choice how you priorities these 24 hours. If you are finding that you are giving out more than you are receiving, then you need to re-priorities your priorities. You may not always have hours to fill your cup with, but you can make minutes. You will be amazed at what a difference you can make in filling your cup minute-by-minute every day, vs the pressure of trying to fill your cup in large chunks of time once in a blue moon. Thriving Mama Hypnotherapy has a wide range of 5 minute hypno habits that are designed for taking 5 minutes, as many times a day as you need to fill your cup. 5 minutes 6 times a day is 30 minutes of making yourself important.
Let go of what you no longer need
Holding on to beliefs, thoughts or habits that are old, outdated and no longer supporting you is a powerful way to clear the slate so you can re-priorities not only who you want to be as a woman and a mama, but how you want it to be for you as a woman and a mama.
“This is just how it is” is such a limiting perspective on the evolutionary journey of who you are through this experience of being a woman and a mama and who you become as a result of your experiences. You are more fluid like a river, than solid like a rock. Flowing like a river makes life easier and effortless. Sinking like a rock, makes it harder.
Ask yourself the following questions;
- Is this belief limiting me or holding me back from achieving my hearts desires?
- Is this thought limiting me or holding me back from achieving my hearts desires?
- Is this habit limiting me or holding me back from achieving my hearts desires?
- Is this behaviour limiting me or holding me back from achieving my hearts desires?
- If you answered YES to any of these questions then, maybe you are not prioritising yourself as important. Maybe you are prioritising others as more important. Maybe these beliefs, thoughts, habits or behaviours are ready to be released so that you can make room for something new, that meets your needs and allows you to be the most important person in your life.
Discover what is important to you and meet that need
What is important to you? That is the million-dollar question! The answer is variable and endless, as you evolve what is important will also evolve.
Starting with the basics and then working your way up is probably the most practical and achievable way of discovering what is important.
Here are 3 basic questions that you can begin to discover what is important to you;
- Is healthful food that nourishes your body important to you?
- What is healthful food for you?
- How can you priorities healthful food into your day to day life?
Repeat these questions with things like;
- Exercise
- Relationships
- Personal Growth
- Personal Interests & Hobbies – take some time to elaborate on what brings you joy, happiness, fulfillment
Create a list of things you think may be important to you and as yourself those 3 questions for each item and see how you are able to identify what is actually important to you vs what you think is important and how you can either prioritise or discard what you discover is actually no longer important
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Being a woman is truly a blessing. Women are the womb of creation and it is your birth right to create the life of your dreams in a way that is fulfilling to you.
“Whatever you give a woman, she will make it greater. If you give her sperm, she will give you a baby. If you give her a house, she will give you a home. If you give her groceries, she will give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she will give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.” ~ William Golding.~
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