Free yourself from the expectations of others
Welcome, mama!
You’re here because you’re ready to take charge of your life and free yourself from the expectations of others. You know that it’s important to uncover and discover what is important to you and to find a way to live your life in a way that is congruent with your beliefs, values and needs.
As a woman and a mama, it is not uncommon for other people to place unsolicited, well-meaning expectations on you and assume that you will conform and subscribe to these expectations.
While some expectations may come from a well-meaning place, we must remember that everyone’s perspective is unique and based on their own experiences and beliefs. Not all of these perspectives are positive or balanced. Many expectations are rooted in negative and limiting, people-pleasing, or fear-based viewpoints.
It’s important to evaluate the expectations that are placed on you and determine if those expectations are healthy and beneficial for your life.
By doing this, you can create a life that is empowering and fulfilling.
Discerning what is in alignment with your wants and needs is a process unto itself. And it can change from moment to moment. Identifying what is congruent for you is something that takes time and practice and a whole lot of self-compassion.
Let me break it down for you a little so that you have somewhere to start that is manageable.
The first step is to become aware of the expectations placed on you. It can be challenging to recognize when you’re feeling overwhelmed by these expectations or even when these expectations are not in alignment with what is important for you, so it’s important to take a moment to pause and reflect. When you have a better understanding of what is expected of you, it’s easier to create boundaries and determine what you are willing or not willing to do and the reasons why you are or are not willing to do them.
Once you’ve identified the expectations, take time to think about what is important to you. What do you need and want out of life? What are your values and beliefs? Once you have a clear picture of what matters to you, you can make decisions that align with these values.
The next step is to create a plan for how you will live your life. Start by setting realistic goals that you can work towards. Prioritize the things that are important to you and focus on taking small steps to achieve them.
It’s also important to remember to take care of yourself. Self-care is an essential part of freeing yourself from the expectations of others. Make sure to take time to do the things that make you happy and nourish your soul.
Finally, don’t forget to be kind to yourself. It’s ok to make mistakes and to not always have the answers. Allow yourself to make mistakes and have grace with yourself. Self-compassion is your key to success here. You are perfect whole and complete just the way you are and with that is the perfection of imperfection. Life is messy and never a straight line. Give yourself permission to try it all and figure out what works and what doesn't, you never know, you may just have fun along the way!
By following these steps, you can free yourself from the expectations of others and live a life that is true to your values and beliefs. It may take time, but you can do it!