honouring the grief of the loss of your old life now that you are a mom
The transition to motherhood is one of the most significant life changes we can experience, and with it comes a feeling of grief and loss for the old life we once knew. For many moms, this grief is a source of sadness, but it also can be a source of growth, strength, and resilience.
It's important to remember that everyone's experience of grief is unique and valid. It's OK to feel overwhelmed, sad, and scared. But it's also important to recognize that this grief can be a powerful opportunity to learn and grow.
As a mother, it's important to take the time to recognize and honour the grief of the life you've lost. This could mean sitting down and writing out all the things that you miss about your old life, or it could mean finding ways to honour the parts of your life that have changed. It could also be as simple as setting aside time to take a break and just be.
No matter what your experience of grief looks like, it's important to remember that you are not alone. There is a community of mothers out there who have gone through the same experience, and there are many resources available to help you through this difficult time. So take a deep breath, be kind to yourself, and know that this experience is normal and that you will get through it.
Honouring The Past Version Of Yourself
Honouring the past version of yourself and giving thanks for all the experiences and wisdom you have gained can be a transformative process. It can bring healing and a sense of deep peace and understanding. Here are some steps you can take to honour the past and bring the parts you love into your present experience:
- Take some time to reflect on your past experiences and the wisdom you have gained. Consider how these experiences have shaped your current self and how you can use the lessons you have learned to help yourself in the present.
- Make a list of the positive qualities and strengths that you have gained from your experiences. This can be anything from resilience, to a greater understanding of how to manage stress, to creativity or the capacity to show compassion. Give yourself credit and appreciation for these qualities.
- Make a list of the things you have achieved so far, no matter how small. Celebrate your successes and give thanks for the moments when you have stepped out of your comfort zone and overcome obstacles.
- Write a letter to yourself expressing gratitude for the lessons you have learned from the past. Give yourself permission to forgive yourself for any mistakes or regrets.
- Take time to practice self-care. This could be anything from a relaxing bath or a massage, to spending time in nature, or simply taking some time to enjoy your favourite activities.
- Connect with the people who have positively impacted your life. Make sure to thank them for their support and let them know how much they mean to you.
Honouring your past is a sacred and deeply personal journey. Taking the time to reflect on the experiences and wisdom you have gained will allow you to appreciate yourself and the resilience you have shown. It is an act of self-love and appreciation that will bring you closer to your present self.
You Don't Have To Leave It All In The Past...
It is important to remember that just because your life has changed in order to become a mama, doesn't mean you have to leave everything that you love from your past behind.
You can choose to bring forward qualities, strengths, hobbies, passions, and interests from your pre-mamahood life and incorporate them into your thriving mama life.
It’s important to recognise that you can still have the same goals and dreams that you had before you became a mom.
You are capable of continuing to work towards them, no matter how busy motherhood can be.
Think about the activities that brought you joy and fulfilment pre-mamahood and find ways to incorporate them into your life as a mom.
Whether it’s taking a yoga class, learning a new language, or starting a blog, you can continue to make time for yourself and for your passions.
It’s important to find ways to stay connected to your pre-mamahood life and nurture your individuality. Your life as a thriving mama will be richer and more fulfilling when you don't leave everything behind.